The Kim Constable Podcast

Why Do We Want More For Less? - Episode 81

Most people have an inverted relationship with work. They associate work with something difficult. We’ve conditioned ourselves that work is tedious, has to be done, and isn’t supposed to be fun. And the more we do it, the more miserable we are. This is normal, right? Wrong!

 

This actually only happens when we are in a job we don’t like that isn’t fulfilling. 

 

I have been getting ready for the re-launch of The Million Dollar Mentor. I created a free 5-day training, and in the group, I asked what everyone wanted — what they truly wanted out of life. And you know what the overwhelming majority said? They want to earn more money while working less. This isn’t shocking, right? It seems that everyone wants this. And I used to be the same.

 

Until I grew into a multimillion-dollar brand and realized that the more money I make, the more I work. And that I actually prefer this because my purpose in life is being met through my work! It took me years of doing more work than I’d ever done in my life to reach the point I’m at now and let me tell you — I work even more now.

 

But I’m able to do more of the things I love because of the hard work I do, and that is the key. You have to be willing to work harder than you’ve ever done before. We don’t want to work less — we want the freedom to do the things we love!

 

Listen to the massive wake-up call I had right before the launch of Buns & Guns that catapulted me back into the driver’s seat and back in control of my happiness and my quest for fulfilling my life’s purpose.

 

You definitely don’t want to miss this!

Love Kim xo

Reference List: 

• The Million Dollar Mentor 5-Day Challenge:  https://www.themilliondollarmentor.com/ 
• Dr. Jordan Peterson: https://www.jordanbpeterson.com/
• Buns & Guns: https://www.thesculptedvegan.com/buns-and-guns/

 

QUOTES USED:

 

“Most people don’t want to work less. They want freedom.”

 

“When you’re working hard at something that you love, that IS freedom.”

 

“Humans don’t lack happiness; they lack purpose.”

What it takes to be successful in business or bodybuilding (it’s not what you think) - Episode 80

Do you seek out discomfort? Or are you perfectly fine playing it safe and not taking risks or doing anything remotely uncomfortable? 

 

How you do one thing is how you do everything. Most people prefer to stay within their comfort zone because it’s familiar. This makes sense, right? Who the hell would purposely chase discomfort and unfamiliarity? Well, I’ll tell you who—successful people. People who are successful (or are on the path to success) have this in common. They aren’t afraid to take risks. They aren’t afraid to push themselves. They wake up earlier than everyone else. They show up, do the work, and don’t complain about it. They are this way in the gym. They are this way in their career or business life. And, if they were lucky enough in their childhood, this was taught to them by their parents so that it felt natural to them well into adulthood.

 

The problem is, most people are not this way. And for most people, that’s okay! I’m not saying these are necessary qualities for every human to have. But if you desire something bigger, something better, something more meaningful in any area of your life, you need to learn the skill of chasing discomfort and pushing yourself outside your comfort zone consistently so that you can make it happen. 

 

Nobody is coming to save you. Build what you want yourself — whether that’s your body, business, family, or literally anything else. 

 

In this episode, you’ll hear not only how I learned this valuable lesson myself but how I was able to instill it into my 4 children.

 

Everything you want is on the other side of discomfort. Will you go there?

 

You will love this one!

Love Kim xo

Reference List: 

• The Million Dollar Mentor 5-Day Challenge: www.themilliondollarmentor.com (not live until June 4, 2021)

QUOTES USED:

 

“It’s not the SYSTEM that makes you successful — it’s what you have on the inside.”

 

“You have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. You have to seek discomfort!”

 

‘Everything you want is on the other side of discomfort.”

Cellulite: Follow These Exact Steps to Eliminate It Once and for All - Episode 79

If you can change your body, you can make a million dollars. 

 

Pretty bold statement, right? But it’s true. The process it takes to change your body is the same as the process it takes to make a million dollars. And I know this because I’ve done both. And let me tell you: neither one is fast or easy.

 

So why do we get frustrated when our bodies don’t change as fast as we think they should? Why do we focus on our cellulite, compare our dimply skin to someone else’s smooth skin, and then beat ourselves up because the cellulite isn’t going away despite “doing everything possible”?

 

It’s because we have no real sense of reality. Many women come through my programs and expect to erase years—often decades—of abuse to their bodies in a few short weeks. What has taken years and years of bodily neglect to obtain (excess stomach fat, cellulite, etc.) can’t possibly be fixed overnight. It takes years of consistent, focused effort doing all the right things day in and day out, even when you’re exhausted, fed up, and honestly sick of waiting.

 

You keep going. You never quit. It has taken me 5 damn years to get rid of my cellulite and build an ass I’m truly proud of. And that’s with my starting point already being in a decent place! Getting rid of cellulite is not easy. Building a beautiful set of glutes is not easy. Making a million dollars is not easy.

 

What does it actually take? Listen to the specific strategies you can start implementing NOW to get rid of your cellulite, build your dream body, make a million dollars, or do whatever you damn well want—because these strategies apply to any goal you will ever have.

Love Kim xo

Reference List: 

• Buns & Guns: https://www.thesculptedvegan.com/buns-and-guns/
• Meal Planning Masterclass: https://www.thesculptedvegan.com/mpm/
• Butt Camp: https://www.thesculptedvegan.com/8weekbuttcamp/

QUOTES USED:

 

“Everything you want is on the other side of hard work, discipline, and time.”

 

“Commit to doing whatever it takes to get there. Do not give up!”

Buns & Guns: How To Win $20,000 In a Fitness Competition

It never fails. With every new program launch, there is an aura of stress, worry, and fear amongst the participants. Of course, this is exacerbated if it’s attached to a competition with a huge cash prize, but it got me thinking about how common it is to stress over minutiae when something substantial is on the line (like, oh, I don't know, $20,000).

 

The most epic shred I’ve ever created, Buns & Guns, has just launched, and the competition begins in a couple of days (May 24th, 2021). The cash prizes total $41, 500 which is the biggest cash fund I’ve ever offered. Naturally, this makes people lose their marbles. They all hyperfocus on manipulating as many external (and irrelevant) variables as possible so that their results are good enough to win: are we using UK or US cups? What exact time should I have my protein shake if I’m at work and can only take one break per shift? Can I use a different brand of protein powder? What if I can’t do deadlifts because of a back injury? Will my results suffer? How many ml in a US cup, and what if I can’t find US cups to measure with for this recipe?” etc...

 

And let me be the first to say I get it. I truly do because I’m the same damn way. I love to control many aspects of my environment because I’m a control freak. 

 

But here’s a secret: it’s not at all realistic, and these little details don’t matter. The more we try to control these variables, the more stress we place on ourselves and the worse off we are. 

 

And another secret? The winners of my programs are the ones who DO NOT do this. In fact, they do the opposite of this. You’ll hear in this episode how past winners tackled my previous shreds—what they did, what they avoided, and how they were able to land in the top .01% of everyone who has ever purchased a Sculpted Vegan shred program.

 

You are going to love this one!

Love Kim xo

Reference List: 

• Buns & Guns: https://www.thesculptedvegan.com/buns-and-guns/
• The New Contented Little Baby Book: The Secret to Calm and Confident Parenting https://www.amazon.com/dp/0451415655/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_QZF645HZZ4W2V75BXPE4
• SV SHIRT: NOBODY CARES WORK HARDER https://www.thesculptedvegan.com/shop/nobody-cares-work-harder-womens-ideal-racerback-tank/

 

QUOTES USED:

 

“Fear is just a lack of data.”

 

“You cannot force things to be the way you want them to be. You cannot make things happen faster than they’re supposed to happen.”

 

“Bodybuilding teaches you reality. It teaches you what is possible.”

 

“Consistency over time is what creates incredible results.”

Machine vs Free Bar Squats: Which Is Best For Muscle Growth? - Episode 77

My whole life, I’ve always been fascinated by huge muscles. It’s also taken me YEARS of intense determination, drive, and ass-busting to get them. 

 

As a former skinny yoga teacher, I dreamed of the day I’d have a round, juicy butt and huge legs. But yoga was definitely not the way to do it. So when I decided to get my ass in the gym and start training with my first personal trainer, Curtis, I was on a mission to grow the biggest glutes and legs I could possibly grow.

 

Except I was doing it ALL wrong.

 

I would position myself under the free bar week after week, month after month, trying my hardest to increase the load and increase my size.

 

But my back couldn’t handle it.

 

It hurt like a b*tch to squat under that free bar! All my years of yoga left me with very weak glute muscles because the types of squats you do in yoga don’t require much glute activation. Because of this, my lower back would pick up the slack of what my glutes should have been doing when I would break parallel and go deep (though I didn’t realize this at the time).

 

My efforts were not matching my results. I wasn’t getting bigger! Instead, I was just constantly in pain, and my weak glutes were making it impossible to increase my load in the gym. After loads of researching, I realized what was causing my back pain. I became obsessed with building my glutes so that I could alleviate the pain and push some heavier weight so I could grow. 

As you’ll hear in this week’s episode, a strange turn of events happened with my friend Emma that changed the course of my entire bodybuilding career. Listen to what changes I made in the gym that not only massively strengthened my glutes and my lower back, but turned my quads into melon crushers faster than I ever thought possible.

 

This may shock you!

Love Kim xo

Reference List: 

• Buns & Guns: https://www.thesculptedvegan.com/buns-and-guns/
• Basement Jacked: https://www.thesculptedvegan.com/basementjacked/
• Kim’s IG: @thesculptedvegan 
• Squat Your Way To Relieving Back Pain: Episode 35: https://www.thesculptedvegan.com/podcast/35/

QUOTES USED:

 

“The fastest, most efficient way to build more muscle is simply to add more load.”

 

“It’s hard to train hard enough when using a free bar.”

 

“If your goal is simply bigger legs (and not stronger legs), squat heavy on a machine!”

 

“As long as you can lower with control and then still get back up with a bit of help, your muscles have not yet failed.”

 

“Time does not equate results.”

How To Be an Overnight Success — Interview With Maria Hatzistefanis - Episode 76

It all started when she got fired.

 

A young girl growing up in a safe environment on a small Greek island, where her parents praised doing things safely and only chasing a job that was guaranteed to secure her future, Maria Hatzistefanis knew she wanted to impact others in a unique way.

 

Her childhood was never extravagant or luxurious. Her parents were teachers, and they all lived a very low-key and quiet lifestyle.

 

Then one day (in her 20s), something happened that took Maria off the “expected” path and thrust her into the entrepreneurial world unexpectedly…

 

She got fired from her first big job.

 

And she says it was the best thing that ever happened to her.

 

Maria decided to start her own business, Rodial, a potent and unique skincare brand (she even has a vegan line + uses a shocking special ingredient that mimics Botox)!

 

She is now a London-based entrepreneur, best-selling author, TV personality, and podcaster!

 

I was so thrilled when she agreed to be on the podcast. She talks about her life before she made it big, how she actually almost went bankrupt a few years ago, and she spills her dirty little skincare secrets (you will totally love these)!

 

She also gives the most epic advice for aspiring entrepreneurs that I LOVE.

 

You’re going to flip over this interview! Don’t forget to check out her amazing skincare line, linked below (I’m even buying some myself!)

 

Happy listening!

Love Kim xo

Reference List: 

• Maria’s book: How to Be an Overnight Success: Making It in Business (https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Overnight-Success-Business/dp/1785037323)

• Maria’s skincare: Rodial (https://www.rodial.co.uk) and (https://www.rodial.co.uk/US/) (will be dot com summer 2021)
• Maria’s IG: @rodialbeauty and @mrsrodial
• Maria’s own IG filter “Banana Lowlighter”

QUOTES USED:

 

“The journey of every entrepreneur is never straight.”

 

“If you want to be successful, you have to study the people who are doing it really well and learn from them.”

How To Listen So Your Kids Will Talk and Talk So Your Kids Will Listen - Episode 75

Most people just want to be right.

 

If you’ve ever paid close attention to how people talk to each other, nobody is actually listening. It’s just a game of right vs. wrong where the “listener” is just waiting for the other person to stop talking so they can talk again. 

 

This is not listening. It’s not even effective communication.

 

Listening and communication are skills that need to be developed—skills that many adults don’t ever end up mastering.

 

This gets compounded when we become parents. If we haven’t learned how to effectively communicate by the time we have children, we then make it damn near impossible for our children to learn and master these skills. It becomes a vicious cycle that makes relationships exhausting and hard.

 

You’ve heard me discuss how many of our issues actually stem from our childhood. This is no different. 

 

As a child, I grew up in a very authoritarian household. My parents were my parents, not my friends. We were spanked, shouted at, and punished — we even had a naughty step and went to a boarding school. I never felt understood or listened to. I spent much of my childhood rebelling and doing whatever I could to be the exact opposite of my parents (which is actually what most children do when their parents aren’t effective communicators).

 

I craved acceptance and individuality but didn’t receive those things from my parents. But I vowed to be the total opposite of them and have spent my entire adult life seeking and learning how to do better, especially for my own kids.

 

I have never punished my children. They’ve never been shamed, shouted at, talked down to, or suppressed. I ask them questions and nurture their individuality. I teach them how to seek answers for themselves. 

 

And most importantly? I accept them for who they are, and they know and feel that every single day.

 

If every parent can learn these important skills, we will witness a massive transformation in future generations.

 

In this podcast, I will teach you exactly how to listen so your kids will talk and talk so your kids will listen. And in turn, your kids will have the healthiest, most fulfilling relationships at every level.

 

Listen closely as I share the following strategies (and examples) that you can implement immediately in all of your relationships. But know this: it’s not enough for you to simply listen and read these strategies. You must actively apply them in your life every chance you get. 

 

Strategies to have a better relationship with your kids:

1. Use “It seems/sounds like…” questions to establish what they want.
2. Ask “why” questions.
3. Ask, “What would be the downside if you didn’t get it?” (this identifies the REAL problem)
4. Ask, “Why do you need it to be that way?” (this establishes the emotional attachment)

I really hope you enjoy this episode!

Love Kim xo

Reference List: 

• 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos. By Jordan Peterson (https://www.amazon.com/12-Rules-Life-Antidote-Chaos/dp/0345816021)

• Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as if Your Life Depended on It. By Chris Voss (https://www.amazon.com/Never-Split-Difference-Negotiating-Depended/dp/0062407805/ref=pd_sbs_1?pd_rd_w=azkBS&pf_rd_p=2419a049-62bf-452e-b0d0-ca5b7e35a7b4&pf_rd_r=D9X021W76JTC7EZ9WRT0&pd_rd_r=4e924ada-04ae-4b0c-a73d-905db63c74f8&pd_rd_wg=Oc2qc&pd_rd_i=0062407805&psc=1)

QUOTES USED:

 

“Whenever we punish and control our children, we teach them that a part of themselves is bad, so then they fragment themselves into two different people.”

 

“Children are not stupid. They know that the reason we’re trying to control them is to make our lives easier.”

 

“ Kids will fight to the death for you to hear them.”

 

“If you learn to communicate better with your child, you will model communication skills for them, and they will naturally learn how to do conflict-resolution, ask for what they want, how to negotiate, and how to have conversations without fighting.”

 

“If you ever want to understand someone or have a better relationship with someone, you first step into their world, try them on, and then invite them back into yours.”

 

“If you force your need to be right onto your children, you’ll teach them to do this in relationships.”

This 8-Figure Business Coach Turned Empathy Into a Superpower That Made Him Millions (and How You Can Do It Too) – Interview With Alex Charfen - Episode 74

 

Stop letting yourself off the hook.

 

Too often, we fall victim to excuses, and these excuses become the way we do everything in our life. They become the habitual reasons we never reach our full potential, and yet most of us never realize we are the cause...or the solution.

 

Over the last few years, more and more people are jumping into the entrepreneurial life, but something is happening in the process—they’re letting themselves off the hook. They’re not showing up for themselves. They’re getting wrapped up in their emotions and doing all the wrong things that are ultimately leading to the demise of their business. 

 

So I decided to interview Alex Charfen, co-founder and CEO of a multi-million dollar business, to get to the root of why most people are struggling with entrepreneurship.

 

It ended up being quite an emotional podcast.

 

Alex may be a multi-millionaire now, but he has struggled throughout his life and has even experienced bankruptcy.

 

As a kid, he had a difficult time fitting in. He was made fun of, mocked, and constantly judged (by kids and adults alike). He was the weird kid with massive self-awareness, always getting in trouble and constantly switching between the gifted classes and the special education classes, never knowing where he belonged. He spent much of his childhood surrounded by powerful women who supported each other emotionally. As a result, he developed an incredibly influential level of empathy, which I deem his superpower. 

 

He has used his superpower to go from bankrupt to being on the Inc. 500 list of the fastest-growing companies in the country three years in a row and won many other awards. Now, his mission is to help other entrepreneurs grow and scale their businesses just like he did.

 

In this interview, he talks candidly about his struggles growing up and how he’s now using these experiences to make millions of dollars helping people. And you might be surprised to learn how he’s done it.

 

You will hear him talk about: 

 

• Why he’s no longer unschooling his kids (I absolutely loved this)
• How his unique childhood experiences formed his massive level of empathy 
• How top-down pressure can destroy your team/business
• How entrepreneurs are failing and how they should be running their business
• How masculine and feminine energy can work synergistically to explode your business and make you millions
• What’s missing in women-owned businesses that could be the one catalyst to their massive success
• Why we say businesses are becoming more powerful than governments

You are going to really love hearing Alex share his heart and passion. 

Love Kim xo

Reference List: 

• Radical Honesty: How to Transform Your Life by Telling the Truth (by Brad Blanton)
• (https://www.amazon.com/Radical-Honesty-Transform-Telling-Truth/dp/0970693842)
• Alex Charfen’s website - BOOK A CALL to see how Alex can help you level up in your business: (https://www.charfen.com/)
• Alex’s podcast: (https://www.charfen.com/podcast/) 
• FREE BOOK: Your Entrepreneurial Personality Type (https://eptbook.com/ept)

QUOTES USED:

 

“When your behavior matches your beliefs, you are integrated.”

 

“Consistency creates trust. Trust creates intimacy. Intimacy creates a greater level of communication.”

 

“People may not agree with what you have to say, but they will respect the fact that you’re not afraid to say it.” 

 

“What’s more human than helping each other?”

 

“He who has the most joy wins.”

How To Build a World-Class Physique — Q&A With Mark Getty - Episode 73

One thing you can’t cheat is hard work.

 

We recently finished our last Butt Camp competition, and the final results were mind-blowing, but they didn’t come without nay-sayers and loads of confusion from people who don’t understand what goes into extreme physique change.

 

My programs require 110% focus, determination, and discipline—to the point where only about 10% even finish them. Understandably, those who don’t have any background in body sculpting often question the final results because they’re so unbelievable. So I decided to interview my very own trainer, Mark Getty (the head judge in Butt Camp), to shed some light on exactly what it takes to sculpt results so mind0blowing that people not only question whether you’ve altered your pictures, but want to know how the hell you did it.

 

Why Mark?

 

Mark is a world-renowned champion heavyweight bodybuilder who has placed in the top 3 in his category over 100 times and holds 48 titles (both amateur and pro)! He knows more about physique change than almost anyone else and drops some big truth bombs in this interview that you can’t miss.

 

He talks about:

 

• What to do if you don’t have a spotter
• How to go to failure even if you’re a beginner (and what failure really is)
• The most important equipment for your home gym
• Photoshoot tips that can take your photos from second place to first place
• How to transition out of a shred without gaining all the weight back
• His EPIC breathing advice for getting through the reps (this is great)
• ...and so much more fantastic advice that you need to hear!

You will also hear about his experience in the last few weeks going plant-based for the first time! You are going to LOVE this episode. 

Love Kim xo

 

Reference List: 

• Book Mark Getty for a 1:1 coaching session: (https://www.thesculptedvegan.com/coaching/mark-getty/)
• Mark’s website: (https://theirishhulk.com/)
• Mark’s IG @theirishhulk: (https://www.instagram.com/theirishhulk_/?hl=en)
• Mark’s FB: (https://www.facebook.com/MarkGetty.BodyBuilder/about/)

QUOTES USED:

 

“One thing people can’t cheat is hard work.”

 

“Every time you leave the gym, ask yourself: Could I have done more?”

 

“When the pain starts, that’s when you keep pushing.”

 

“Learning is all about making mistakes, and hopefully, you don’t make the same one twice.”

 

“The guys that work the hardest always prevail.”

How a Mom of 3 Transformed Her Life by Deciding To Be Happy— Interview With Meaghan B. Murphy - Episode 72

Are you choosing to be a victim?

 

Did you know that whether you are happy or whether you feel like a victim, those are choices you can make?

 

About 18 months ago, I met my wonderful podcast guest, Meaghan B. Murphy. We were both at a big media event (where I was on stage pitching to speakers, she being one of them), and afterwards, I wrote to her and thanked her for her feedback and critique.

 

We have stayed in touch ever since, and I was so excited to finally have her on the podcast because her story is absolutely incredible.

 

Meaghan is the author of Your Fully Charged Life - where she shares her best tips & tricks for having endless energy and happiness. She is a longtime magazine editor, writer, on-air personality expert, podcaster, and certified trainer (wow!).

 

But, she had a very tough childhood before all that. Growing up, her nickname was “Grumpy” because she was always so miserable and negative. Her teen years were no different as she found herself a raging anorexic to cover up the inner negative turmoil in her head.

 

Her anorexia got so bad that she was admitted to the hospital. Her best friend (also an anorexic) was on her way to the same hospital when she jumped from the car and died.

 

Tormented by her friend’s death, Meaghan struggled for many years. But she eventually decided that her mess would become her message.

 

As you listen, you will hear:

• Her biggest failure + what she learned from it
• What PERMA Theory is and how it relates to your ability to flourish and be happy
• One super simple (+ tiny) step you can take tomorrow morning that will noticeably move your happiness needle
• How she found her sole purpose in life
• How to eliminate your lack of motivation with 2 simple things

Look, life will throw you a sh*tty hand at some point (probably more than once). Making the choice to be happy regardless of that? That is a skill very few people ever learn in life. 

 

It won’t mean your life will be perfect, but it sure as hell will allow you to flourish despite the chaos.

 

And that is something we all deserve.

 

Hope you love this as much as I did!

Love Kim xo

Reference List:

• Author: Your Fully Charged Life (https://www.amazon.com/Your-Fully-Charged-Life-Radically/dp/0593188578)
• IG: https://www.instagram.com/Meaghanbmurphy/
• FB: https://www.facebook.com/meaghan.b.murphy
• Meaghan’s website: https://meaghanbmurphy.com/
• Jordan Peterson’s book, “Beyond Order: 12 More Rules for Life” (https://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Order-More-Rules-Life/dp/0593084640)

QUOTES USED:

 

“Happiness is not a passive state of being. It’s an active state of doing.”

 

“The only way through is onward.”